Redefining your relationship with fear.
Fear can be uncomfortable and crippling. But eliminating it would be the equivalent of taking down your home alarm system because it sometimes makes loud and irritating sounds. Being fearless doesn’t mean eliminating fear. Being fearless means knowing how to leverage fear. And to do that, you need to identify what exactly you are afraid of. Look at the pictures you have in your head about the situation. What is happening in them? What are you really scared of? Become an observer of your inner space.
It's time to stop letting your fears create havoc in your life. First of all it hasn't even happened so why let this imaginary image of whatever it is prevents you from moving towards the desires of your heart? I once read where writing down your fears can be very helpful. In fact oftentimes you will find that your fear list isn't all that long. So writing them down helps you to see clearly better than trying to figure it all out in your mind.
I know we all want to learn to control fear and have predictability even though it's impossible to get. It's when we don't feel we have control, we experience fear. But is it possible to ever have control? Even if you can swim, you can drown. Give up the illusion of control, and you’re free.
Whenever you start experiencing fear, I want you to tell it this: I’m sick and tired of being in bondage to you; sick and tired of being held captive to an entity that prevents me from living out my fully abundant life and God-given purpose. Try writing fear a letter like Joyce Meyer in her book LIVING COURAGEOUSLY: You Can Face Anything, Just Do It Afraid.
I only refer to you as “dear” because of our long-term, intimate relationship, and certainly not because you are dear to me in any way. In fact, you have been a tormenting influence from start to finish. You have told me lies and prevented me from doing the things I wanted to do and should have done. You are indeed a miserable, wretched companion and one that I no longer am willing to be involved with.
I am writing you this letter to let you know that from this point forward, I will not fear! Although I may feel your presence, I will not bow down to your demands. I have a friend whose name is Jesus, and He has promised to never leave me nor forsake me, but to be with me always. He is indeed a powerful friend and although you do have some power, His is by far much greater than yours. You can come against me, but Jesus lives in me, and the power of the one who is in me is greater than you are (see 1 John 4:4).
Although I cannot prevent you from coming to visit, I do want to give you notice that you will be ignored. I am far too busy now fellowshipping with my friend Jesus and developing an intimate relationship with Him to give you any of my time. The more time I spend with Jesus the more courageous I become. He is teaching me a new way to live, one that is exciting and adventurous—one that is fearless.
I also want to inform you that since I have so much experience with you and know how self-defeating it is to listen to you, I now intend to tell as many people as I can what a thief and a liar you are. The years I have wasted with you will be redeemed and I will bear much good fruit. Thank you for driving me to Jesus. You see, you made me so miserable that I sought a way to be free from you, and Jesus met me where I was and set me free.
Should you decide to waste your time and try to visit me even after my letter, I am letting you know ahead of time that you will be met by faith in God and a determination that I WILL NOT FEAR!
SINCERELY AND DETERMINED, (YOUR NAME HERE)