Is perfection holding you back? 3 ways to let that ish go!
Updated: Sep 6, 2018
You know her, she's a boss chic and she likes things to be in order. T's crossed and I's dotted. There's nothing wrong with wanting things to be in order but is the addiction with perfection keeping you stuck? I know it has for me. You feel like everything needs to be done perfectly or you can't move forward. I had to learn this the hard way. I would be so concerned about having things "perfect" that I would end up putting myself in a stagnated space of confusion. My momentum would turn into doubt or the need to change something. Now by no means am I suggesting that you half step on anything however becoming overly concerned with personal achievement can sometimes hurt you in the long run.
When you become so obsessed with perfection and you don't meet those self-induced benchmarks, some people start to feel inadequate or even afraid to move forward. I'm here to tell you what you've already heard time and time again...there's no such thing as perfect!! So, do you your best in everything and everything in excellence. When you apply these 2 fundamentals I believe it can help you to stop being so hard on yourself.
This can affect your life both personally and professionally. Some people want to look like they have the "perfect" family or the "perfect" job or business. Who cares? We don't know the what goes on in other people lives behind closed doors, so it's time to stop comparing yourself socially or professionally and instead learn to live the life of YOUR desires. We should be pushing for excellence not perfection.
So, ask yourself a few questions before you start that next project or self-development:
1. What am I doing and why am I doing this?
2. What's my hard deadline to make this thing happen?
3. What are the CORE things needed?
See I used to see vulnerability as weakness and perfection as strength, so I allowed myself to get caught up in the black hole of perfection. Just like being inundated with too many webinars or the chatter of you need this or you should be doing that, can not only drive you crazy, but broke financially and mentally. So, trust you, your dreams and your vision. Do what feels good to you. Work with what you have and do it with excellence.
I want to leave you with 3 things you can start doing to eliminate the disease of perfection:
1. Take Action #getbusy
Perfection and overthinking very often gets us stuck, and we end up going in circles. Planning is good, but it won’t get you anywhere unless you take that first step.
2. Self-compassion #loveyourself
Rather than ignoring our pain or criticizing ourselves, we need to be understanding with ourselves when we fail, suffer or feel unworthy. We must remind ourselves that this suffering is something that happens to everyone and not just “me” alone. Most successful people feel inadequate when they fail and yet they see it for what it is, a passing phase and an opportunity to correct their mistakes. They very often cut themselves some slack rather than criticize themselves.
3. Surrender and let go. #letitgo
Letting go is often easier said done, but when we truly start practicing this principle, we find ourselves enjoying the ride and not just the destination. We often allow numbers, results and opinions of others to dictate the goals we set and how we are going to achieve them. Stop talking to so many people that don't understand your rhyme or reason. It's okay.
It's time to toss the idea of perfectionism into the garbage, where it belongs.
“ Success is the result of hard work, learning from failure, loyalty, and persistence.”