• Stacey J.

Creating intentional relationships

Updated: Aug 15, 2018

LIVE365 Empowerment Conference 2016

The picture above is from my LIVE365 Empowerment conference in 2016. There were 5 speakers that were all amazing women from different industries. Some of them I had already known personally but there were a few I did not. I was grateful that they all decided to be apart of my event considering there may have not been a connection prior to the conference. I even had an emergency and one of them stepped in the day of! Although I didn't personally know a couple of them I was definitely grateful for their willingness to help a sista out. Although I may not talk to each and everyone of them on a daily basis, I try to stay connecting with them in some form or fashion rather it's via phone, in person or social media.

I have learned to sew into my relationships by getting to know each person, offering advice, helping with a project, promoting their project and generally being friends but it takes work.

Over the past few years I learned how to facilitate better win-win relationships. You’ve probably heard that you are the average of the 5 people with whom you spend the most time with. Well, I took this to heart and have sought out connections with people who have a strong desire to grow emotionally, spiritually, creatively, personally and professionally and to achieve a high level of success. (however, they define it).

I love getting to know people’s stories, dreams and goals, which helps me to build a bond with them. This is usually a great way to connect with people. Remember it takes intention and dedication to put a lot of time and energy into relationships period, so to waste your time with unfulfilling and draining ones is a luxury one can’t afford.

Advice on building win-win relationships

  • seek to learn more about them - people love talking about themselves

  • look for people who are at your level and grow with them.

  • not everyone you encounter will become a friend

  • eternal connections will not be made overnight - continually and mutually sew into relationships

  • look for ways to add value to their lives (technical help, tips, advice, laughs, referrals, etc.

Worst Business Relationship Practices

• Only reaching out when you need something.

• Only talking about yourself.

• Mistaking connections through social media as substitutes for real relationships.

• Avoiding being personal.

• Failing to be transparent about what you want.

• Going from “hello” with a new contact to “I want...” without building a trusting and open relationship first.

• Keeping score.

• Abusing your network with frequent requests.

• Not following up appropriately.

• Failing to show gratitude.

Business Relationship Practices

• Being authentic.

• Getting personal. Your transparency will invite them to be transparent in return.

• Being candid.

• Always try to “pay it forward” and offer to help the other person.

• Being insatiably curious about others. Learn and remember personal things about others like spouse and kid names, hobbies, interests and birthdays.

• Finding meaningful ways to touch base with your network consistently throughout the year. • Freely sharing ideas, connections and content. Always add value to the relationship.

• Doing what you say you will do.

• Meeting people in person whenever it is convenient and appropriate.

• Always being grateful.

“How will you start making more meaningful and intentional relationships?"

Here's to better relationships,

About Me

Stacey J. is a Mother, Grandmother,

life enthusiast, media personality, writer, and Founder of LIVE365 Empowerment. Through blog post, emails, events and my podcast, I'm here to help you find the time, energy, and confidence you need to pursue what matters to you.

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